The Bystander Phenomenon Revisited

The case of Kitty Genovese who was murdered in New York in 1964 in full view of 39 witnesses who did nothing to help, triggered a series of seminal research papers by John Darley and Bibb Latane on what was dubbed the 'bystander phenomenon' - the apathy typically shown by people when they then assume someone else will take responsibility for a situation.

Now Peter Fischer and colleagues have revisited the phenomenon and come to the more heartening conclusion that people are likely to help if they perceive that someone is in serious danger.

Fischer's team recruited 86 participants who were led to believe they were taking part in an experiment in which they had to observe the way men and women flirt with each other. The participants thought they were watching a live video feed from an adjacent room in which male and female strangers were meeting each other, but really they were watching pre-prepared video clips.

The first two clips each featured a different man and a woman meeting for the first time and passed uneventfully. However, during the third clip, which featured a third couple played by professional actors, the man grew increasingly aggressive towards the woman, until by the end of the clip he was being violent and abusive towards her.

Crucially, some participants watched a clip that featured a huge brute of a man (high danger condition), while other participants were shown a clip that featured a scrawny, skinny man (low danger condition). Also, half the participants were sat on their own, while the other half were accompanied by what they thought was another participant but was really an assistant to the researchers. When the man in the clip started getting aggressive, this other 'participant' just shrugged and said (s)he didn't want to get involved.

When it was a little skinny man who started getting violent, the bystander effect seemed to occur: 50 per cent of participants who were sat alone went off to help the woman, compared with just 6 per cent when another 'participant' was sat with them. However, when the violent man was a large brute, the bystander effect virtually disappeared: 44 per cent went to help when they were on their own, compared with 40 per cent in the company of another 'participant'.

Lead researcher Dr. Peter Fischer said "The good news is that when people are in real trouble, they have a good chance of receiving help, even when another bystander is present".

"Fischer, P., Greitemeyer, T., Pollozek, F. & Frey, D. (2005). Unresponsive bystander behaviour: Are bystanders more responsive in dangerous emergencies? European Journal of Social Psychology. In Press, DOI: 10.1002/ejsp.297.

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Exclusive Interview British Eco Lingerie Queen Jennifer Ambrose Of Enamore

EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW BY NOW I LIVE IN LONDON, BUT I AM NOT REALLY ENGLISH. I am what you would call a mutt, if I was a dog. I have a little bit of blood from almost every type of culture on the planet. A pinch of French, a dash of English, a smig of Spanish, and a whole lot of other strains I couldn't even identify, but I know they are in there. All this blood mixture has made me a bit more dark, than your average English girl. You see, the girls around me tend to be more the English purebreds dull types. You know them when you see them on the street, they all have that chocky, blump, and grim face look. For a long time I thought that was just what my fellow mates looked like, but I was wrong. It's all the dairy, beer and fried fish they suck down. As soon as I started hanging with the G Living crowd, everyone started looking a bit more human or should I say Monkie. My point is, and I have one, is that G Women just seem to look better and when you look better, you feel better. And when you feel good, you also, feel a whole lot sexier. Which leads me to my point. G Women may feel sexy, but when it comes to vegan / organic options in the Lingerie department, we are completely left out in the cold. We don't want chemical laden fabrics, we want soft organic sexy fabrics and designs. Lucky for all of us, dark brooding, 1950 loving "G" club hopping girls, Jennifer Ambrose has created Enamore Limited a vintage Lingerie / Fashion House. JULIA: Why did you start with a eco / green lingerie line? Did you have experience designing lingerie? JENNIFER: Enamore started as a clothing label in 2004 and in 2006 I decided I wanted to create lingerie with the same principle as my clothing range. I didn't have the skill to make lingerie myself so I approached designer Ayten Gasson to collaborate. The first collections were a mix of hemp/silk and vintage prints, which were a big hit with my customers. In the beginning we were fulfilling all the order from Ayten's studio so each piece was hand made. Further down the line we parted company to focus on our own ideas. I took over the design work and started to work with a production unit in South Wales. JULIA: The green fashion world is pretty small still. Is there fashion brands or designers you admire n the G / Space? JENNIFER: I really admire Deborah Lindquists work from the USA. JULIA: Who are the designers in the main stream fashion world do you look up too? JENNIFER: Again Deborah Lindquist for 'green fashion'. I also really admire Vivienne Westwood for her amazing longevity and original ideas. JULIA: What has it been like to startup a new green fashion company? What do you think the biggest surprises have been so far? JENNIFER: Most aspects of starting and running the business have been more difficult than expected. When I started Enamore I was still a home care worker and a waitress on very low income and really struggling to fund my path. I did not have a back round in fashion or business so it took me a few years to really start finding my feet and learning the ropes. Learning in business is a never ending process as is learning to be a better designer. I haven't been to university to study fashion so there has been a lot to take in learning about manufacturing on top of selling and marketing. On the plus side, the path I have taken to grow Enamore has changed my entire life. I love work and my confidence and has grown immensely over the last five years. The business has become a way of life and many of the people who I now call my friends I have met as a result of my work. I intend to start teaching sewing workshops in the autumn in my local area to pass skills onto other people. JULIA: How do you think the state of the economy will effect the green movement? JENNIFER: I think although the economy has slowed down somewhat, people are starting to look for quality and long lasting products rather than buying cheap quick fixes, which in the long run costs more as they need to keep being replaced. I am optimistic about Christmas. We are introducing eco-erotic gift hampers for our customers, which I think will be a big hit! Lingerie sale are less affected by recession [here in the UK] as people are staying in more and getting busy! JULIA: What is different about your lingerie and clothing compared to the more traditional fashion companies? SARA: A pinch of classic, dash of retro and spoonful of gorgeous. One of the main points of difference is the fabrics we use, which include organic cotton, bamboo, organic silk, hemp, wool and soya. We are also looking at modal for our next collection. Our styles are classic with a vintage twist. We design our lingerie to fit comfortably and to look attractive on many body types - not just skinny bottoms. We add a little eco-cheek to the green market. A lot of labels play it quite safe in terms of the way they promote themselves. I think that because of Enamore's style and nod to the past, we are able to take more risks in terms of both the designs we develop and they way we present them. JULIA: How import are the fabrics to you? Would you buy conventional fabrics? JENNIFER: The fabrics are very important as we have built our business on eco-friendly principles. We can't just buy from any supplier, we need to know more about where the fabric comes from and whether they hold certification. I like the challenge of working with only eco-fabrics, but sometimes as a small company it can be frustrating not being able to have my own colours and prints created due to the expense. I am growing the business so eventually I will be able to design my own fabrics. JULIA: How important are the designs or sex appeal, since it is lingerie? JENNIFER: I think that sex appeal is very important to selling lingerie. I work hard to improve our designs every season, and have recently employed a specialist bra designer to create our first underwired bras. Our imagery appeals to both men and women as it's sexy and cute but not sleazy. We take inspiration from old pin up postcards from the Fifties, which is my favorite era! JULIA: Do you think the giants of the lingerie business might wake up one day go green or is it just impossible for the Victoria Secret's of the world to do this? JENNIFER: It's not impossible at all, it just takes a lot more work. There are plenty more new materials coming into the market each season, which will vastly improve the choice for green lingerie manufacturing. Eventually one of the big players will jump on the wagon I'm sure. JULIA: How important has pricing been? JENNIFER: Our lingerie may be a little on the expensive side, but as we manufacture our range in the UK, we can't get our prices as low as lingerie made in China. JULIA: How "G" or green is your personal life? Do you live here in London? JENNIFER: I don't live in London, I live in Bath in the west country. We recycle everything we can including compost. I mainly ride my bike and take public transport wherever possible, although sometimes I do borrow my boyfriends car. JULIA: I don't see a lot of designers creating vintage lingerie lines. Why did you decide on the vintage look and who are you designing for? Why type of woman? JENNIFER: In a way I am still designing for myself, but luckily my customers share my taste! I really try to make garments that will flatter realistic curves so that ladies feel great when they wear Enamore, whether a dress or a pair of knickers. I think I have found a good mix that appeals to men shopping for women and for women shopping for themselves. JULIA: Where do you see the brand going? Do you have some goals your working towards? JENNIFER: We are focusing mainly on major developments within our lingerie range for 2010. Up to now we haven't been able to offer structured bras, but this is all changing now and we are adding some great new shapes for the next collection. We have a amazing range of hand made nipple tassels and pasties which will be launching on our website over the summer. We are also in the process of re-branding Enamore with a great new look and website. This will also be taking place over the summer in time for the new season. We would like to eventually be competing with the likes of Agent Provocateur and other more mainstream lingerie brands. We would like to see our range for sale in Liberty's of London in the future. JULIA: With all of life's pressures, what makes you laugh? JENNIFER: My boyfriend, Everyday, My friends and Myself JULIA: Are you a traveling type of girl? Do you get out of Bath much? JENNIFER: I love the West of England where I now live. It's full of amazing old buildings with beautiful landscapes and views. I also love the dramatic landscapes of western Canada, which is where I am originally from. JULIA: Wow, your a Canadian, not a Brit? So you must like to travel. Where have you been? JENNIFER: I love the countryside in France, we're going back this summer for 2 week, this time to the Alps in the south. The pace of life in France is slower than the UK, and I really enjoy the laid back attitude. Plus the weather is amazing compared to the British summer! I've been to Iceland once in July, which was probably the most bizarre as it never got dark. I did feel like I was in a different world. To see more of Jennifer's designs, checkout here online shop at enamore.co.uk

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Nlp Training Winnipeg

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Never Cheat On Your Crazy Boyfriend

Get back with your exThere are all kinds of people in this world, and that's what makes life interesting. The down side is that you sometimes run into to people who are somewhat off balance. If your boyfriend fits that description, then there's a good chance that your girlfriends are telling you to cheat on him, to play the field. But a good rule of thumb is to never cheat on your crazy boyfriend.Let's be honest, cheating and being a "player" is more acceptable in today's society, but that doesn't make it right. Some people will argue that it's okay to cheat on your boyfriend if he's emotionally unstable. The way those people justify it is by saying that he somehow deserves to be cheated on because of his behavior. Wrong!The problem with the idea of justified cheating is that it tries to fix a wrong by doing wrong. The saying "two wrongs don't make a right" applies here. When you started going out with him, you made a promise to not be unfaithful. Perhaps you never talked about it, but that promise is always assumed in this kind of a relationship. Keeping your word and remaining true are important character traits.Click to get your ex backNow, it may be true that your boyfriend is indeed crazy (however you define that term), or isn't a nice guy, but as long as the two if you are going out, it's up to you to be faithful. Your girlfriends probably just want you to see somebody else, which is why they are encouraging you to cheat on him. Here's what they don't realize: cheating on him will only lead to bad things. Let's look at the two possibilities and what the likely result is:1. He will find out. Chances are quite high that he will find out about you cheating on him. How will he react? What are the real odds that he will just shrug it off and be on his merry way? If you already think he's "crazy" then cheating on him isn't going to help the situation in any way.2. He won't find out. Even if he never finds out, you will always know that you cheated on him. It may feel good or exciting at the time, but then guilt and low self-esteem will set in. So, what can you do if you don't want to be with him anymore? The main thing is to not let him scare you into staying with him. That is a form of abuse, and you should get away from him as soon as possible. If he's not forcing you to stay, but you want to go your separate ways, then you will have to break up with him. In fact, you can do just about anything you want to, as long as you never cheat on your crazy boyfriend.6 tips to help your ex to fall back in love with youHow to get Your Wife Back After a Breakup or Divorce

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How Your Differences Can Make You Closer

by Kara Oh

Your relationship cannot be as close as you'd like it to be if you're not willing to shift your attitude about your differences, i.e. what causes the friction between you.n the beginning, you probably thought his differences were cute, adorable, enchanting even.As you became more familiar, some of those differences have probably begun to wear on you, maybe even make you a little bit crazy.It's important to remember that it's our differences that make us interesting to each other. It's essential that you remember you two are not the same, that you don't want to be the same, and life would be less interesting if you were too much the same.

THE TROUBLE IS, MOST OF THE TIME IT'S THE DIFFERENCES THAT CAUSE MOST OF THE PROBLEMS IN A RELATIONSHIP.

If he saves money and you like to spend it; if he's messy and you're tidy; if he likes to eat at 6:00 sharp and you eat when you're hungry; if he's too lenient with the kids and you're strict; if he's casual and you're more formal; if he likes sex in the morning and you like it at night; if he likes sex more often than you do; you're going to have trouble if you don't know how to deal with your differences.Generally, it's the differences that breed resentment and distance.Would you like to know how to make those irritating differences be a vehicle for deeper intimacy? This is a very important topic to embrace if you want to truly guarantee a lifetime of love.True intimacy is an ability to open up to each other and allow yourselves to be vulnerable. The only way a person can be vulnerable with another is if they know they're not going to be attacked. They must know that what they have to share is going to be heard, honored, and accepted as what's true for that person.If you and your husband have gotten into the habit of attacking each other because of your differences, then this is going to be a very difficult habit to change. But it ' essential if you are going to develop the kind of intimacy that lasts a lifetime.Before discussing how to bridge this gap, let me inspire you to seriously consider staying open to the possibility that the following might be the best way to guarantee a lifetime of love. That's because you're going to turn the primary reasons for divorce into the most precious means to ever-deepening intimacy.To make this concept work successfully for you, you must both be willing to have open-hearted, revealing conversations with each other. You have to be able to talk about your differences in a way that stays loving.To do that you must keep in the forefront of your thinking the realization that everything you're going to be doing here is to insure an enduring relationship. You got married wanting forever, this is an important part of making that a reality. So let's get started.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR DIFFERENCES WORK FOR YOU

Make a date with each other, or select a time and place, where you will work on transforming your differences into deeper love, respect, and intimacy. Treat it like you would an appointment with a couple's therapist.To begin this process, make a list of all your differences. It's most effective if you categorize them into differences you admire and enjoy, and differences that cause friction. Since the goal is to deepen intimacy, you're going to learn that this new way of talking to each other works any time you want to understand each other more clearly.Once you get comfortable with this form of communicating, you're going to want to make it an important part of how you interact.I would advise you to begin to learn this new way of opening up to each other by working with one of the differences that you both admire and appreciate. You can decide whose list you take this first item from.Have an open discussion about why you appreciate how you are each different in regard to this item. Discuss why you think it's a benefit for the two of you. This is a nice beginning to set the tone for this discussion.

NOW YOU CAN MOVE INTO THE MEATY PART OF WHAT THIS CONVERSATION CAN ACCOMPLISH FOR YOU.

Take turns talking about why you think you each are the way you are. How did you come to be this way. Look back on your childhood, how your parents were as models, how you maybe developed safety mechanisms to counter something that was going on in your childhood. Maybe you were married before and you created certain types of conditioning to get along with your partner.I was married for 29 years to someone who was judgmental. But not in any way that was obvious, which turned out to be very damaging. The conditioning that was put into place was to fear making any kind of mistake.How that interferes in my relationship with my partner today is that I feel judged when he goes into what I call his Professor Mode. He has been a finance professor for over 20 years. His topic is pragmatic so he teaches in a pragmatic way.But for me, it seems critical. He was lovingly trying to help me learn, but my defenses went up. We talked about these differences between us and he admitted that I am not the first to point this out. So he said he would try to be more gentle and loving, that he would not assume things about what I was thinking, and that if he forgot, to stop him.The outcome of this conversation is that I don't get defensive and he is more than willing to shift how he is talking to me so that I feel loved, which is his greatest desire.

Another, even stronger piece of my conditioning is that, as a little girl, I felt like I was a bother. I won't go into why that belief was put into place, but it helped me to step right into believing my husband when he made me feel like I was a screw-up.He's since apologized for putting me through all those years of his judgmentalism, but the damage was done. Because I understand this about myself, I can work on it in every arena where it gets in the way of what I want, and my partner can help me let go of that old conditioning.

From this example, can you see how this kind of deep understanding of each other can create more intimacy? The more you know about each other, the more you understand why you are the way you are, the closer you will become. That's because you'll be sharing from your hearts.After you feel like you've gotten to the core of why you're different in regard to the particular item you're working on, tell each other how you're feeling toward each other with this new insight. I suspect you'll be feeling more deeply connected. It's very sweet.When you're working on the differences that create friction between you, this final step will help a lot. What you must do is create a plan for dealing with whatever feelings might come up the next time that particular difference shows up.Hopefully, your reaction will not be as strong, but if you have a plan already in place, you'll both be able to make some significant shifts in how you react.Just remember that the goal is not to be right, but to be loved. You cannot float in a river of love if you are mucking around in a hole of mud.Besides, being right at the cost of losing your connection is not going to help you sleep better at night. It's certainly not going to hold you or make love to you.From my heart to yours, Kara Oh

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How Nlp Can Help You

By Fyodor Gray

NLP can be used to overcome any life obstacle, from health worries and phobias, to confidence issues and life traumas. The following case studies are simply a few out of the millions of people NLP has helped so far, and the millions more it will continue to help.

NLP trained practitioners have an understanding of the inner workings of the human mind, and can channel that information into helping you make significant progressive changes. NLP is the process of helping you to change the deep set mind patterns of your behaviours, emotions and thoughts that lead initially cause anxiety, self esteem issues, health issues, and mental problems and disorders, addictions and other dangerous and restricting behaviours.

Often the hardest but most key area to success in any area of life is reading people. Whether it is day to day tasks or life changing decisions, most of the choices we make in our life will involve or directly affect at least one or more other people. Even if it's simply what you choose for your family to eat for dinner tonight or whether that business investment or new job offer is too good to be true.

Barbara Morrison was a certified teacher of real estate education to adults, but she was not satisfied with the low level of real estate education provided. So, with the help of NLP, she gained the knowledge, skills and confidence to open her own school of real estate education, offering what is now considered to be one of the top courses in real estate education. She is now a successful teacher and business woman, all thanks to NLP.

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Sometimes My Brain Is Awesome Dreams Part Xix

Sometimes I love my think up, part for enjoyable me for striving to be wonderful in my waking life, and part just for the tighten up crap it comes up with at the same time as I'm not looking.

In the hindermost half-hour of nothingness hindermost night, I was an Indiana-Jones-esque manly-man badass, steeling the in limbo outcome I needed from an horrific(?) fashion of full bastards in the past falling off the litter memento they point they were trustworthy needing: the moldy body of their blessed saint, John the Thatcher (Margaret Thatcher's brother).

They drank some infusion made of oarange glass of something and a cap of 5-Hour Depart out of a carafe they questionnaire contiguous to the body, I think to guarantee they would resume oppressively full or something. Of route, I jejune the fun bits of John's sarcophagus, so even even as I operative delivered it to watch their orgiastic Bacchanal, they'd be poor again my break of day.

Then the insignificant imp con artist/female lead made an Indiana Jones irritate about clams (which is not from any Indiana Jones shampoo, but it was in this life, clearly a new one, since) my upshot was to dash her across the room until she tripped over a picnic table magistrates such as no one can run in an ankle-length catlike cocktail show. She trustworthy point I'd out her at the party as my sometimes-accomplice, but by the time I without an answer up to her all I did was pick her up and say, "Rotten, I've never seen that one.". And in addition to bestow was a lot of kissing. On a par, a "lot" a lot.

The elementary irritate I made to get sarcasm'd at was something about clams.

Oh, did I extol the catlike badass cat burglar chick I was making out with at the end of my adventure was Emma Watson? I in all probability could do with continue mentioned that I made out with Emma Watson. In a fair wig. I told her I liked her better as a gloomy. I don't evoke if she liked that.

(Equally bestow was too further kissing.)

Sometimes, I love my think up. Thank you, think up.

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