We know that there's a lot of things you can do to keep your love alive throughout the years.
Generate the kind of relationship you require without buying in to any of the relationship myths that are commonly-held beliefs in our culture.
Here's what they mean...We all listen to them
beliefs that hold people back from generating what they require.
The two of us not only listen to them from others but we have heard them come out of our own mouths, these are beliefs that limit what is possible.
The truth is--if you don't believe something is possible, it probably is not. Take for instance a limiting myth that Susie two times believed...
In fact, this myth goes so far as to say that women over 50 are ready to dry up and blow away in lots of ways--and that it is all over except playing with your
grand kids.
In the first few months after her divorce from her first husband, they believed in the myth that women after 50 had a slim to none chance of finding love again.
BTW-- this belief could as easily be about age 25, 30 or 40 as well and the truth for Susie way back then was...While they loved playing with her grand kids, Susie wanted to find passionate love again but didn't know it was possible--especially with a younger
man.
Well, guess what? As you know from reading this newsletter, Susie DID find love again (and with a younger man--Otto.) They got together when Susie was 51 and Otto was
35 and now, we are in year 13 of being together.
Our love, passion and connection is stronger and more alive than when they first got together (and it was strong back then.)
We have defied the myths and they know that finding and keeping love alive and passionate is possible at any age.
1. "He's my husband (she is my wife). I can talk to him (her) that way. "One of the chief causes of falling out of love with a partner is consistently not feeling respected and
honored for who you are. A way this shows up is taking your partner for granted over the years and putting everything else before your relationship.
But the myth that love and passion dry up and die after a definite age is not the only two they exploded. Here are a few other myths that can keep you from staying in love...
When they observe couples who have stayed in love throughout the years, what becomes apparent is the way they treat each other. They don't park courtesy and kindness at the
door when they come home.
They recall (most of the time) not to take their tiredness and irritation from the day out on the people they love most.
2. All men (all women) cheat.
Like you, we have seen the statistics and have been inundated by the reports of all the celebrity cheating scandals.
They don't talk in derogatory ways to their partner--ways that they seldom would to their best friends or even casual acquaintances. They recall that because they share their lives together, they have no right to demean or belittle each other.
They certainly know that people cheat for a variety of reasons--most of them they might not even be aware of. If you have been cheated on two times (two time or more), it is hard to not think that it will probably happen again--and that finding a partner who will be faithful to you is impossible.
We are not going in to how to "cheat-proof" your relationship right now but they will say this...ALL men and ALL women don't cheat. The couples who don't cheat have clear agreements about what they will and won't do, communicate and are honest even when it is hard, have learned how to keep the spark alive between them, and they have learned how to resolve conflicts without carrying resentments that can tear them apart.
3. A tiny bit of jealousy cannot hurt and is lovely for your relationship
while the feeling of jealousy is natural when you sense that your man or woman might be taken away from you--it's not a device to be used to keep the two of you in love.
Some women,, start flirting with someone other than their partners when they require to bring some spice back in to their relationship. While this may get them some attention, it is
certainly not the kind of attention they REALLY require. And generating jealousy in someone else usually backfires.
While in some cases it may briefly stoke the fires, it creates mistrust and separation which can possibly lead to violence. This is certainly a myth to bust if you have believed it!
4. Most people think... It is normal and inevitable that passion fades over time. They know from personal experience--and from knowing couples who have been together a lot longer than we have been together--that passion doesn't must fade over time.
It takes attention, stoking the fires (in a healthy way) learning how to communicate and taking steps to consciously grow together.
In fact, it can get better. You read right. It can get better as the years go by.
Above all, it takes a strong desire to keep your relationship passionate.
So there you have it.
There's lots of more relationship myths that they could bust about staying in love but perhaps you'll be made aware of something that keeps you from having more love in your life by something we have said here.
Credit: dating-coach-anita.blogspot.com
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