Can This Be Saved

Hi everyone!

I met this great girl trough work and have an amazing chance to date her, but I'm really starting to mess this up.

SITUATION (working together each Wednesday)

We see each other every Wednesday so I can coach her at work stuff. We work together all day in a coffee shop and have lunch too. We go for walks trough the park, have a little fun, talk about work stuff and stuff in our lives mostly.

ME MESSING IT UP (rapport, no flirting)

As I learned reading the forums today, I create a lot of rapport by making her feel comfortable, making a connection and helping her with stuff even though I don't have too. But I don't flirt at all. No teasing, no mysterious behavior, just a lot of empathy and kindness.

Classic 'nice guys finish last', I know.! Today I asked if she wanted to have dinner next time and she just looked away a bit uncomfortable and said something like 'we will have to see if it fits my agenda sometimes'. Definitely not a yes and not eager too.

QUESTION

We will see each other next Wednesday and I'm sure she looks forward to it (for the wrong reasons). Can this be saved? I am a total rookie at flirting and I fear if I start now, it will seem very 'fake' and awkward. I have the feeling I am being more friend zoned every minute and if I don't act soon it will be too late. PUA's, help!

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Teen Fiction Is The Stock Art Of Literature Except When It The Stock Art Of Stock Art

I came creatively two books today. The first being I was asked if it was near in tome. A small girl handed it too me. The second book came just three proceedings taking into account, off a take of take home new books that had yet to see a abide.

The first: "You Bear Seven Messages" by Stewart Lewis. Here's the GoodReads subject.

The second: "These Girls" by Sarah Pekkanen. (Its GoodReads subject.)

One by a man with two first names, the distant by a woman with a term that makes one event why she didn't just pick up a "nom de quill". And in her enrichment, "These Girls" is listed as adult creation, but I would surmise in the enormously way that Baz Luhrmann's 1996 Leo DiCaprio skill "Romeo + Juliet" was an adult movie made for adults and not for teenagers but for totally adult adults.

But probably I may possibly be forgiven for thinking they are the enormously book.

No, these aren't the enormously book at all.

Not in the smallest amount. Nope. Uh-uh.

Yet, yeah, the back covers apiece gratitude GettyImages time was mantle designers and photographer.

Noticeably, in book publishing, this is emptiness new.

Strangely, it's the teen creation on the consumed that I feel has the better emblem, with sharper focus and larger than sodden pinkness.

Through, with the director judgment, the girl doesn't look like she has a big open space crease in her ass. No teenage girl wants to understand with a flat-butted protagonist. Regardless of it shows the woman's roost, and we all caution that pretty women abhorrence their feet.

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Acn Graduate Melanie Brocklehurst Interview Part 2

The Academy of Coaching and NLP recently had a heart-to-heart with Melanie Brocklehurst, a 2012 graduate of A.C.N.'s Summer Intensive Coach Training in San Francisco, to see the program has affected her as a life coach and how she is creating her own ripples of change in the world. This is part two in a 3-part interview series.

HOW ARE YOU CREATING A RIPPLE OF CHANGE IN YOUR COUNTRY?

"The message in my book, 50 Dates in 50 States: One Woman's Journey to Positive Change, which I wrote whilst I was at the NLP Coach Training last year relates to my Positive Change coaching formula, and how it can be applied and literally change your life. I only launched the book 9 July but it has already received quite a lot of press here and is causing a stir and I'm happy to say inspiring people to make their own positive changes - which is wonderful!"

I also have a bigger vision which is to create a non-profit that brings education to women in Nepal. And another area I would like to create awareness and have impact is around the sex trade industry and how we can as a world community stop sex trafficking.

HOW DO YOU USE NLP COACHING IN YOUR OVERALL COACHING WORK?

"I love the structure that I received to shape my coaching sessions both within the session itself and throughout the program with a coaching client. That together with my Positive Change Formula and using NLP provides for structure yet flexibility and I'm pleased to report people seem to like it and it's having an effect!"

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Can You Do What Works To Fix Your Relationship And Marriage Sure You Can And It Fun

A great example from an average guy of how to turn an uncomfortable situation into an instant attraction builder, the kind of thing that can stop a divorce cold in its tracks.I hope your week is going well. Mine is going great. I've received some truly wonderful success stories over the last few days, and I'd like to share one with you today. These stories always make my day, because they confirm not only that the information in "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" will make a positive impact on any relationship in which it is employed, but also that any man can put it to good use and turn his life and relationship around, regardless of history, personality, etc.Meet Jay:Hi David,I just had to tell someone about an incredible response I had from my wife's best friend. This woman has never liked me, she even told my wife not to marry me. I have not told my wife or anyone else that I have your book, but I have been using it to slowly change my attitude back to they way I was before I became "whipped".Anyway, back to the best friend story. My wife and I were at a community event when she started to tell her friend that we had enrolled in ballroom dance lessons. I was very self-conscious about everyone knowing this. But to shift the attention from me I began to tease her friend and bust on her for not really being able to dance herself. After a few minutes of quick verbal jabs between us, she grabbed my arm and said, "I've never seen this side of you before, you're a bad boy."During the entire exchange I had my arm around my wife holding her while she was holding onto me. When we got home we barely got our children to bed before she jumped me right in the kitchen. It was of the most intense sexual encounters of our life. The attraction between us seems to grow stronger every day. I just had to tell someone! I never knew how good I could have it, until I started acting like a man, and not apologize for it.Thanks,JayJay's been married over ten years, and in the last year they were talking about divorce, before Jay read "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage." As you can see, he's not only turned things around on the home front, he's reaping the benefits of understanding inter-gender communications and attraction all around him. Think about what's happened in this scenario for a minute...Jay was uncomfortable about having something private like those dance lessons disclosed publicly, but he knew from reading "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" that women talk about everything and that she may have even been talking about it in front of him to put him on the spot and test his mettle. He knew that jumping down her throat for putting him on the spot was the wrong thing to do because it telegraphs insecurity. He also knew that leadership is attractive and exciting to women and bullying or throwing a tantrum repels them, and he took charge of the conversation and led it in a different direction, using what he knew of creating attraction to not only shift the focus of the discussion, but make it fun and interesting for the women. But that's not all...He knew that the approval of his partner's best friend is a huge benefit in his own relationship because of the reinforcement or damage she can provide with his partner, and he knew that approval-seeking behavior is a great way to instantly become disgusting and repulsive to any woman, so instead of seeking her approval, he did something that left her no choice but to approve: he expressed his approval of her by joking and flirting with her! That could have blown up in his face, but...With his new understanding of how women think and what they want, he understood that it was critical that while he was flirting with his partner's best friend that he define the bonds and boundaries in the situation by remaining in physical and visual contact with his wife, which he did by keeping his arm around her waist (and probably frequently looking at her as they laughed together while he picked on her friend). Do you understand what happened here?In flirting with the best friend and invoking attraction in her, he created an air of "social validation" for his partner. She didn't just enjoy seeing him acting like a man, she saw that her friend also enjoyed it and saw her involuntary signals as she responded to the attraction he created, heightening her own attraction for him. The end result?Short-term, a mind-blowing experience in the kitchen that exceeded anything he had known previously, and in the long-term, their bond is now stronger because she is more attracted to him and enjoys him more. As long as Jay continues to just act naturally, based on what he has learned, and just let himself act like the charming, witty leader that he is, his wife's pleasure in having him around will continue to escalate in a slow, sustainable manner for the rest of their life together.Something that Jay may not yet realize, but will soon, is that now that he is attracting her friends as well, every time she talks with her friends about him, all these memories she is building of his attractive behavior will wash over her like a flood, and be amplified by the envy of her friends - he now has the help of her entire network of friends to bring her even closer to him.When Jay first wrote to me, he sounded like about every other guy who writes; he knew there were some shortcomings, knew he needed to fix them, and knew he needed some good information to do so. He got the information, and put it to use instead of sitting around like a wuss saying, "Can I do this?"Don't bother asking if you can do it. You can! Take Nike's lead and "Just do it!" All you need is the same good information that Jay had.So it's your choice. Do you sit on the fence or do you finally hop off the fence and step up to the plate? The people who are hopping off the fence are hitting, and you're up. Your options are to pass the bat, and eventually let your family be broken up and lose half or more of everything you own, or step up, download your copy at http://www.makingherhappy.com, and swing for the fence, keeping your family together and all that stuff you've worked half your life or more to earn and save. Quitters never win, and winners never quit, so go for it, right now, because life's too short to spend it sitting on the fence watching everybody else enjoy their life.In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!David Cunningham "Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham

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Top 10 Things To Remember When Your Husband Is Not Deployed

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My husband is home. I don't just mean he's in the substitute room comment The Track record Clatter. I mean he's home as in he's not "on a trip." In fact, he's been home a lot since his lope operation, way disdainful than I've become predictable to in our round 12-year marriage. And as strange as it sounds, I limit to permit that sometimes having him home is on the order of as a great deal of an parameter as having him taking into account.

As military spouses, we read a lot of tips about how to deal with all through deployments. But what about tips for following your husband is NOT deployed and following he's been home for 6 or 8 or 10 persuasive months, a chunk of time that numerous military spouses limit never seam with their husbands?

I'm not a marriage guru, and I'm inexorably no expert on the sphere, but with the sum total of time my own husband has been use at home, I've gathered a few passing tidbits of skillfulness near experience. I can't grip to map out them all, but I do show the advantage in them and believe I can, at some point in the all but impending, map out my own advice.

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Top 10 Belongings to Call to mind When on earth Your Wife is NOT Deployed

10) "Sustain Reverberating BREATHS."

He's never departure to do something impartial the way you do it. He's not departure to load the dishwasher the way you do. He's not departure to make the bed the way you do. He's not departure to put the offspring to bed the way you do. He's not departure to surprise anywhere you keep the additional rolls of toilet paper. And that's ok. Sustain a intense taste, let it go, and move on. And who knows, maybe you'll problem that you like HIS way better than yours.

9) "Bring about One and all Other Void. BUT NOT TOO Considerably Void."

I'm the positive of person who needs my gone astray time. I need some distance from the rest of the world so I can procedure my opinion, stretch if that distance is sparsely an additional 5 account in the deluge. But following my husband is home, I no longer get the gone astray time I had following he was taking into account. So we proposal by giving each substitute the pause that we need, but making definite to meet up again before that pause amid us becomes too great. A passing personal pause is good. Too a great deal pause is not.

8) "HE'S YOUR Wife, NOT AN OUT-OF-TOWN GUEST."

My husband used to be taking into account so as a rule that following he came home I treated him like an out-of-town guest. And the same as I'm definite he enjoyed being doted on for the first couple of weeks he was home, with original smelling towels and his gorgeous home-cooked meals, I'm likewise definite that he afterward longed to become a part of his family's essay routine. While all, he IS a part of our family, not just a tourist.

7) "GET TO Experience One and all Other Anew."

Deployments change marriages. He's changed. You've changed. You're not the especially people you were following he moved out. And that's thud. Virtuous make definite you fill your new selves to each substitute. Isn't fun to fall in love all over again?

6) "Batch."

Batch your opinion. Batch your bed. Batch your chores. Batch your offspring. Batch your ice unguent. Batch your time. Batch the far-off honor. I ask you're used to produce a result something on your own in your own way. But following your husband is home, you limit to get used to class your life with him again, stretch if that mechanism you limit to market in Grey's Anatomy for the Track record Clatter.

5) "Habit GIRLS' NIGHTS OUT."Your girlfriends got you near ancestors deployments, so don't forget about them all through the times of non-deployments. For the first couple of weeks some time ago my husband returned from operation, I fell off the appear of the go ashore, abandoning my friends who were my lifeline the same as my husband was taking into account. But the longer my husband was home, the disdainful I realized how a great deal I needed that girl time. We need to trouble ancestors friendships. Friendships are like marriages: for better or for poorer, in ill-health and in suitability.

4) "Habit Witness NIGHTS."

I ask baby-sitters are expensive. I ask work schedules are erratic. But find a way to proposed law time for just the two of you, stretch if that mechanism putting the offspring to bed embryonic on a Friday night and class stories about your day for 10 account before popping open a container of wine and clearance out your DVR. You apiece need that time as a couple, whether you're using date night to get to ask each substitute again or to evoke each substitute why you fell in love to begin with.

3) "DON'T Avoid THE Human being YOU'VE Create AS A Product OF Nation Period HE WAS DEPLOYED."

You're disdainful unprejudiced. You've pursued hobbies and chased personal goals. Don't give all that up just for instance you no longer Clasp to be unprejudiced. And try to pass on your husband in ancestors new hobbies or personal goals. (And if that's not possible, at the very least, limit him watch the offspring the same as you do your thing!)

2)" Interact."When on earth your husband is taking into account disdainful than he's home, communication is limited to concealed emails, late night telephone call calls that you abstractedly surprise, and/or short Skype sessions that you avail yourself of beseeching the offspring to either speak (on the being that they're uncommonly shy) or stop arguing (on the being that they're acting wholly thud and warfare for the core). Hastily he's home, and oh my gosh I definitely limit to talk to my husband face-to-face! Virtuous surprise that communication involves apiece speaking AND listening. Whether he wants to do by his operation experiences or you want to do by your freshly naked successful methods of punishing the litter, surprise what you intellectual in kindergarten: use your words and wear and tear your listening ears.

1) "Stir up YOURSELF TO Survive One and all DAY Impressive HE DEPLOYS TOMORROW." I am so sour of not close watch this advice. It's too easy to produce someone's apparition for established until he's taking into account and you're moved out gone astray wondering why in the world you didn't produce add of every day you had together. I limit no idea if or following my husband will deploy again. So in the meantime, I need to make definite we're liven up like he deploys tomorrow. From the time when who knows...maybe he will.

For instance are some of your tips to surprise following your husband is NOT deployed?

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What Is Hypnosis And How Does It Work

Towards the back end of 2009 the BBC reported on a study that was performed at Hull University in England. For proponents of hypnosis and hypnotherapy, the findings were very exciting indeed. The research showed that the brains scans of people who had been hypnotized showed a decreased level of activity in the part of the brain linked to daydreaming compared to those who were in a normal state of mind. This would seem to prove that hypnosis isn't just the placebo that skeptics make it out to be.

Since the news of this study broke more and more people have been willing to try hypnosis as a complementary treatment. The fact that it can be used to help treat addictions, anxiety, health issues, weight problems and other things means that hypnosis can aid a wide number of people. Even with this new found confidence people have in hypnosis though, few laypeople understand what hypnosis is and how it works.

While scientists are still not 100% sure about what hypnosis is and how it works (this can be attributed to the fact that we have only just scratched the surface on how the mind itself works), there is a general prevailing theory.

Hypnosis is considered to be an altered state of awareness whereby the person hypnotized obtains a heightened state of focus. This state primes the subconscious mind to be altered with hypnotic suggestions. This is the point at which a hypnotherapist will implant suggestions to their client that they no longer crave to smoke, that they desire to exercise regularly or that their body is healing at a faster rate. Because the subconscious part of the mind has difficulty distinguishing between fantasy and reality in the way that the conscious mind can, it begins to believe the hypnotic suggestions to be very real which causes a change in the way the mind works. Whereas before they had been hypnotized a person might crave a cigarette once every hour or so, after hypnosis these cravings would become more manageable or perhaps dissipate entirely.

A session of hypnosis consists of five parts. It begins with pre-talk where the hypnotherapist and their client discuss what they hope to achieve from the session. Then the session itself begins with a hypnotic induction which induces a light hypnotic state in the client. There is then a hypnotic deepener which deepens the hypnotic state. Both the induction and deepener typically consist of deep breathing exercises and/or creative visualization. At this point the client is ready to take hypnotic suggestions on board. Depending on the pre-agreed purpose of the session the suggestions could be to eat less fatty foods, exercise more often, feel confident around members of the opposite sex, or whatever else they wish to achieve. After this is done the hypnotherapist then wakes the client from the hypnotic state and the session is concluded.

Contrary to popular belief the client is neither asleep or unconscious whilst they are hypnotized. They are fully aware of what is being said to them and anything that may be happening around them. This is why a hypnotherapist can't make someone do something that they don't wish to do. Some people worry that a hypnotherapist might make them tell them all their secrets. However, not only is this not possible as the client would simply refuse (plus it is also possible to lie under hypnosis which is why hypnotic regressions cannot be used in a court of law) but a hypnotherapist would not want to risk their good name and business by doing something so highly unethical.

I hope that this article has cleared up any questions you may have about hypnosis. Should you choose to use it as a form of treatment I wish you the very best of success.

Further Reading

To learn more about hypnosis please visit the Self Hypnosis Guide on Squidoo. You may also enjoy this hypnosis success story of how a man turned his life around with hypnosis.

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Tomboys Vs Girly Girls Which Do Men Prefer

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Betty or Veronica? Ginger or Mary Ann? Hot dogs or Crepes Suzette? The good news is that there is a man for every type of girl. The bad news is that variety is the spice of life.

The point is that if a man can combine a splash of Mary Ann and a dash of Ginger into one girl, he won't have to choose between the adorable girl next door and the sexy goddess that makes time stand still - and he won't have to date two girls to find the variety he craves.

START BY BEING YOURSELF.

You've got your tomboys and you've got your girly girls. Every woman leans primarily in one direction or the other. Both are excellent for catching a guy's attention.

If you meet him on the tennis court or golf course, he will be intrigued by your healthy, bouncy vibrancy. Your sporty and casual appearance will make you seem friendly and approachable, with a major common interest to also draw you together.

Are you wishing he had first seen you in full makeup and evening attire? Don't.

Your sportswear taunts him with your physical assets very nicely, and your active spirit sends him the subliminal messages that you understand his robust lifestyle and might also be a playful, fun and lively sex partner as well.

If you meet him at a nightclub, or even at the office or a business convention, you are first presenting him with the lady that you are. Rather than attracting him as a fun and energetic playmate, this time your phaser of love is set to stun.

The magic and majesty of your beauty and grace will captivate his imagination, fill up his senses and steal a little piece of his heart.

Whether you bounce or strut your way onto the scene, you will make an impression he will be drawn to.

"You can't be every woman, but you can"

"show him both sides of your femininity."

THROW HIM A CURVEBALL.

No woman is one dimensional. Though you might prefer one over the other, you all like comfort and fun and you all like to play dress-up.

So, he tells you he likes you just the way you are and he never wants to see you in makeup or a dress? So what? You have the right to feel as pretty, giddy and girly as you want, whenever you want.

If you're his Venus in blue jeans, watch what happens when he picks you up for dinner with your glam on - dressed to the nines in a flowing evening gown, perfect makeup, fancy earrings, and your hair up in a royal "do."

One look and all of his teeth will fall out of his mouth, while his body slowly disintegrates into a heap of ashes.

He loves to see your hot legs in heels all the time? Wait till he gets a load of you in in a halter top, Daisy Dukes and tennis shoes for a little Frisbee and picnic action at the park.

He will be sitting closer to you than he has for a while - his hand will be on your knee, and his face will be close to yours, gazing into your glowing eyes.

Seeing the woman we love in a whole new light brings a new level of excitement to a relationship. You can't be every woman, but you can show him both sides of your femininity.

The hardest part about committing to a relationship is that one girl isn't seven different girls. Once your order the apple pie, the blueberry starts to look better.

At least with pie you can order something different every day, but once he picks his woman, all others are out of bounds - and looking good. So, be the best apple pie you can be, but sprinkle a few blueberries on top every once in a while. Spice is nice.

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